Castles in the Sand

Listening to the waves make their way onto the sand washing away anything in their path, and then retreat again, it’s easy to imagine the castles that are or were once built along the shore.  Some take a great deal of time to build their sculpture-quality castle, securing a strong foundation and adding the finest of details.  Others may build quickly crafted walls, with very little garnish.  In either case, the waves will come and the castles will fall.  Even when built far up on the shoreline, eventually the water prevails and the shore returns to its natural state.

Isn’t this true for us, too?  Are we not the castles in the sand?  We can craft or create whatever we wish in our lives.  It may stand tall for many, many years.  Or it may fall at the first hint of a rolling wave.

Consider this from the perspective of what you wish to create as your reality.  Wayne Dyer says “What’s true in the morning, has become a lie in the afternoon.”  What we feel is important today, this week, this year – at this exact moment – is always prone to change.  Think back to a time in your life when you can from this vantage point confidently say “I’m not the same person I was then.”  This is the transformation of life.  We do not stay the same, nor are we meant to do so.

We are given the sands of the shore on which to sculpt the desires of our hearts.  And we are also given the grace of the waves to wash away what no longer serves us.  Still, it remains true at the end of the day – every grain of sand that once stood as our castle continues to be part of us and contribute to the whole of who we are.  Although the castles may be washed away, the sand is still the sand and can be used to build yet again.

Now, take this concept and apply it to your life TODAY.  Build the castle you desire….and allow the one that is crumbling to take its place back in the sands of time.  Nothing is lost, for the potential of the builder is ever-present.  You are the builder.  You are the creator of your own destiny.  Gather your tools and begin to create what you most desire.  This is a new year, 2011 – embrace it and allow your truth to unfold.

And as you know, my friends…..the way to your desires and the truth of who you are….is through the whispers of your heart.


On Being a “Good Girl”

At a quiet moment in my day yesterday, I had one of those AHA! moments.  The kind where something that has always been part of your life changes its meaning and form, a light bulb goes off and you become enlightened to a rich awareness.

We all have the dialogue that goes on in the “back” of our thoughts.  That voice that can be our mother, our judge or another archetypal presence.  In this particular instance, it was that “mother” voice within my own consciousness that came to the stage.  I heard her say “that’s right, good girl” in support of what I was doing.  And in that exact moment….the switch flipped!

I really could feel the energy within myself change.  We’ve all experienced these moments, and really, they’re quite stunning are they not?!  In my younger years, I soaked it up every time my mom said out loud or even hinted at me being a “good girl.”  This meant I was loved, and as many of us do I took on that to be a “good girl” – to be loved – I had to be pleasing in my actions and my words.  A rigorous code of conduct began to weave itself within my subconscious, driving me to always be pleasing to others in order to be liked or loved.

But here’s the AHA! moment, my friends.  The entirety of my being realized in the space of a nano-second – this is not true!  The goodness of my “good girl” is love, kindness, joy.  That was what my mom could feel.  THAT was why she said “good girl” to me, filled with loving sentiment.  I didn’t have to get A’s, make sure my mom was happy, try to hide any perceived flaws or mistakes.  I just was me….and that was enough!  I was a “good girl” and indeed am a “good girl” just because I am Jackie.  Just because I love to love, respect people where they are, offer kindness and caring.  And even in the times when I struggle to find this place in myself, the good does not go away.  I don’t have to earn my goodness….it just is!

What a liberating, exhilarating and incredibly uplifting realization!  This changes the whole order of your existence, an AHA! such as this!

You too are GOOD.  Not because you have to be, but because you are.  I love the first line in Mary Oliver’s poem WILD GEESE:  “you do not have to be good.”  What she conveys is you do not have to try to be good by human standards.  You are good in the eyes of the Universe.  Take a pause, and let that sink in.  You ARE good.

Your heart will tell you so.  When you pause….listen to its whispers and feel the goodness that is you.

On Being Broken

The message that continues to make its presence known is centered around transformation; letting go of what we hold onto so tightly, to allow for what is next to come through.

In Avatar there was a line:  “It is hard to fill a cup that is already full.”  When we spend our time and energy holding on to what WAS rather than looking into today and seeing what IS, we are robbing ourselves of the potential we all carry.  Spirit is speaking to us daily, offering us opportunities to create change, to be the architects of our own destiny.  Sitting still, we miss out on the gifts and miracles that will be the catalyst to transform our pain, our need to control, our fear, our self-destruction into healing, trust, peace, self-esteem and LOVE.

Can you imagine?  Love knocks on your door, desiring to be the center of your life, but asking you one thing in return:  you must give and receive her unconditionally.  You must put your ego on the shelf, quiet the need to be right, to be understood, to have it your own way…and choose…to LOVE.  We must allow ourselves to be broken, so that what we cannot see, but most need can enter the cracks of our soul, of our heart, and weave love into every crevice.

It was 3 or 4 years ago now that I did some work with Debbie Unterman, an alchemical hypnotherapist here in Atlanta.  During one of our sessions, I remember so clearly saying that I couldn’t let go, I couldn’t feel or relinquish control because I was like an egg – and if I did let go – I was going to break.  And from that session I learned, it was ok to break, for there would be a new me born of what remained.  I can promise you that my life has changed dramatically since then; perhaps less on the outside than from within.  My controller worked hard inside of my emotions, quieting my voice, dampening my spirit.  There were some very tough places along the way, in which I certainly did feel emptiness.  But love has and continues to fill those spaces, opening me to richness I could only have imagined.

Take a chance, let go, allow yourself to break, knowing the love and light will fill you up if you let it.  Open yourself, your spirit; listen to your own voice.  For it is then you will hear the whispers of your heart.



Shifting Energy

Perhaps others of you saw this link this morning – for 2011 horoscopes on Yahoo’s homepage.  Typically I’ll read some of these and can “take it or leave it” – but today I was really drawn to and felt connected with many of the astrological readings for my sign.  What a year it’s going to be!!  If you have any interest in fun astrology – to be taken lightly or more seriously, check out this page:  2011 Horoscopes .  I would love to hear any feedback you might have after reading the outlook for your own sign and what 2011 will bring you.

This is an incredible time of year!  We are on the threshold of what is yet to come.  Stepping into a new year allows us to step into fresh, new energy in our lives.  We can pause and look ahead, contemplating what we wish for ourselves in this new space.  I’m not one for resolutions, but I do very much believe that we can co-create what we desire to be part of our journey, any time of year.  And yet…..there is something exciting about tomorrow being 2011!

Doesn’t it feel as if the new year awaits us with open arms?  Asking us how we see ourselves now…and going forward.  There are so many realms in which we could check in with ourselves…how will we love?  What kind of work will allow us to most creatively use the talents and abilities we have been given?  Where would we like to orchestrate change?  In what areas of our life are we so blessed, we must remember to practice gratitude?  How can we live a life that practices what we believe in and feel most passionate about?

Each of these questions holds its own power.  As you contemplate even one of them, you call to your inner self and the Universal energy that guides your path.  Along with or in place of your resolutions this year, check in with your soul’s compass.  See where you might be drawn to go, what calling you hear from within.  Invite an energy shift into the course of your daily life.

Are you in tune with your spirit’s voice?  Perhaps this is the perfect time to be still long enough to hear what your heart might whisper to you.