“Forgiveness is giving up hope that the past could have been any different.” ~ Oprah
Really just take a moment and let your self fully digest this concept. We’ve all learned about forgiveness, but consider the spiritual alchemy of this statement. “Giving up hope” – something we are not often inclined to do. Instead we put an enormous amount of energy into hoping, wishing, attracting. And yet–full reality is we cannot change the past. So why “wish” it wouldn’t have happened the way it did? What you have experienced is already imprinted on your spirit and your life–as part of who you are and where you’ve been. Even if you would not repeat those same experiences, even if you are different today than you were then–the truth remains they are still a part of what makes you YOU.
Let’s begin with how the events of our life shape us, stretch us, grow us and support us in becoming more fully the living essence of the Divine. We are meant to have challenges, we are meant to experience the fullness of both joy and pain. The soul has no labels on what transpires in our lives, it is the human mind that creates such storylines. We are merely players in a Divine play, we are the characters acting out what is meant to inspire, enlighten, empower and move us in our Earth journey. The soul understands there is a richness in the life of Earth school. And the soul doesn’t judge what we encounter along the way.
Here’s what happens when we hold onto something past its time in our lives: the spirit splits, leaving a piece of YOU in that space of time. You become fragmented and the ability to bring yourself present is challenging if not impossible. For if you hold onto something from the past, a similar emotion will be triggered in present time, preventing you from being open to what is available to you NOW as you are filled up with hurt, anger, resentment, frustration. Your cup is too full. Your spirit is left in a trail over the years of your life and you remain “broken.”
Forgiveness, my friends. Just letting go of the hope, the wish, the desire for things to have been different than they were. If you are on this journey, then somewhere inside of you is a belief in the Divine purpose of our existence–ALL of our existence. We can’t then opt to say, well, Spirit wanted this wonderful blessing for me, but evil forces brought on that negative experience. And it is we HUMANS who have given these labels of “good” and “bad.” But that’s a whole other day’s discussion….
Here’s what’s true: We grow as fast as we choose to. Can you choose to forgive? To let go, to accept your life experiences as part of your necessary journey to embrace the beautiful Divine spirit you are? It’s a choice. How ready are you to make it?
Begin with the things you can let go of, taking the time you need to work through this process. Write down all that you know you’re holding on to still, and then allow yourself to go on and write the things you weren’t aware of; once you begin, it will flow naturally. And then, start where you can, the places you’re ready to acknowledge as part of your journey.
Don’t forget to include the forgiveness you need to give yourself. Turn inward and find compassion for who you were then, understanding we are constantly evolving and today you might choose differently. Find love for yourself as you hold the greatest power there is to love YOU. Your soul knows it, your heart feels it. Listen……for if you allow it, you will hear it in the gentlest of whispers……