Connecting to love is easy when we are emotionally happy, secure and feeling good about ourselves. But what about the times when we are hurt, angry or fearful? How do we connect to love then?
I’m reminded of Brian Weiss’s quote recently posted here, which reminds us to respond with love. As you might imagine, this may not encompass the glamorized romantic version of love. And yet, we do have within us the capacity to remain calm and patient while speaking our feelings and offering understanding. It IS possible. And as someone who feels wholly every ounce of my emotions, I can tell you that it has taken some time to cultivate this practice.
The ability to listen to another when you are not feeling the love flowing comes from self awareness, knowing who you are and taking the space to let yourself feel what is inside of you. And sometimes the difficulty in being able to listen, learn and love is a direct reflection of not understanding your own emotions. Subsequently, your hurt, anger, fear overtake the situation and love is absent.
And so my friends, does this not come back around to what we have already talked about in previous posts – and what we all know within ourselves to be true? The LOVE must first be for YOU. It takes a conscious effort to sit inside of yourself, with time out from the situation or the chaos that swirls around you, and listen to how you feel first. We share love most beautifully when we are experiencing it from within. When there is room for love in your heart, it becomes as a beam of light, shining wherever you go.
So this I would ask you today – see yourself, all of the darkest places and all of the most brilliant places in their magnificence. Look with open eyes into the space of who you are. See your entire being wrapped in love. And then you will be able to offer the same to others, as a centered, confident and loving point of light.
Notice how the key elements to this practice -“Continue to listen, to learn and to love, even if someone else is angry, hurt or fearful” -begin with listening. And so, that too is your work for today – should you choose it – practice listening. Begin with you…..by listening to the whispers of your own heart……