Love is Seduction

‘More and more people are realizing to love their mate intimately and honestly is their spiritual practice; the two are not separate.’ ~ Aphrodite’s Daughters

I read an article yesterday titled ‘Danger: How to Know If You’re Having an Emotional Affair‘, and although I understand a bit of the intention, parts of it really fired me up. The overall message in the article felt focused on keeping our hearts ‘in check’ and maintaining a marriage the way it ‘should’ be done.

It’s challenging for me to find the ‘shoulds’ in my marriage, in my love for my husband, my lover. For me, the commitment I feel for him and for what we share and create together comes directly FROM my heart. If we place rules and limitations on what the heart is allowed to feel, to express, to honor, how then can we possibly be in an open, honest relationship with ourselves or our partners?

A Mermaid in the Sunset - Love is Seduction by Marco Busoni
A Mermaid in the Sunset – Love is Seduction by Marco Busoni

I’m not advocating for affairs, for blind followings of lust or heartthrob. I’m saying there is a beauty to the raw wildness of our hearts, and if we can trust its whisperings, whatever action we take will ultimately and certainly lead us deeper into a knowing of ourselves and subsequently all those with whom we share intimacy. This is true not only of our lovers and partners in a physical sense, but of those we love on the deepest levels, with whom we can be naked in some way.

To imply that intimacy comes from adhering to a set of rules and how it should be feels in opposition to the very beauty that IS intimacy. Intimacy for me is a purity of self, an allowing of what is rather than a stamping out of what ‘should not’ be. There’s a beautiful unveiling that takes place when we follow the seduction of our hearts. How does one determine, with what measure can anyone possibly say the heart is wrong?

Perhaps there is an attraction, a genuine heart-centered connection occurring. I believe we must first be honest with ourselves regarding what we feel. We must take the temperature of our own beliefs and values, honoring our integrity and intuitive knowing. Walking this way in our world leaves little room for ‘right and wrong’ when it comes to the language of the heart.

My spiritual practice is very much centered around intimacy, as well as the ecstatic movement through what is mine to experience. There is no authority outside of my being that could begin to understand, much less dictate what is right for me personally, or how I ‘should’ engage my marriage, lover, partner. When we dare to cross that line on behalf of another person, to speak THEIR truth as though it were ours to do so, we unravel the integrity of their individual and soul power. What to one may appear and/or feel to be ‘wrong’ may very well be healing and liberating for another.

We must begin to understand the power of the heart, of her voice. We must honor the knowing in another and drop the need to dictate who or what they ‘should’ be. The ‘danger’ is in our fear of what might come, of how we might find beauty in the midst of what this world considers chaos. Our emotions, the calling of our hearts is one of the most potent doorways to the center of all we are. When we shush even the tiniest part of that voice, we create ripples that will hold us still in time. We must give full berth to the love unfolding within, in its purest authentic expression. This, loves, this is our way to intimacy, to holiness and the deepest level of commitment to ourselves, our marriages, our lovers. Love, in her purest, most radiant form – is seduction.

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Ultimate Truth

In talking with a dear friend last night, I found myself reconnecting fully to a truth I believe is resonant for us all. Our ultimate truth–the ultimate truth–lies within the voice of our souls. It comes from the Source, however we may name that Source according to our own beliefs. We are always being called to connect, to listen to the melody of our souls mingling with the Divine. It is THE most important space of this Earth journey we are taking. And it is where we will find the answers we seek, if we are open to receive them as they are.

Imagine if you asked the Universe, the Divine:

What do I need to hear?

What is the message in this for me?

How do I find peace in this situation?

What lesson are you sending to my soul?

And then you listened….as your soul called you deeper into the space of your interior castle, into a state of grace in which you felt that overwhelming sense of contentment and trust in All That Is….

There is no greater call…truly…than that of the soul.

The Universe–your soul–is beckoning you deeper and asking you to continue on.

How do you respond?

Simplicity of ‘Allowing’

So much has happened in a short time in my life recently.  Not only from a personal growth and spiritual networking perspective, but also from the standpoint of our family transitioning into another phase of our lives together.  For those who follow these posts, you already know how some of my greatest dreams are being realized, and that movement continues forward.  There is so much to learn, to take in and receive–and I am wide open, welcoming the opportunity to grow and rebirth.  And you’re also aware our oldest daughter is about to go off to college, with her brother and sister not far behind.  So many changes…in just a few months’ time.

As I sat outside contemplating all of this, feeling a very deep desire to be still and connect to the energy Nature just BE-ing, thoughts on giving/receiving came into my awareness.  Certainly I’ve talked here about allowing ourselves to receive and not just always exhausting our ability as Sacred Activists to be servants and givers to our world.  Practicing the art of being penetrated by the loving grace of others supports us in maintaining a balance.

It continued from there, as I looked within to see why there was still something “needed.”  What I found wasn’t a lack of receiving or giving.  In fact, there has been a significant amount of each.  The word that continued to come into my being was “allowing.”  Just allow.  Allow myself.  It’s as though we want to add more, to finish the sentence, add the object of allowing–allow change, allow Spirit to move, allow grace to flow.  But no, there wasn’t more.  No boundaries, no limitations, no necessities, no omissions or indulgences.  Very simply, the message resonated deeply within my soul.  “Allow yourself.” 

There is so much this could mean.  Allow yourself to love, to cry, to sing, to laugh, to shine, to rest, to heal, to eat, to dance, to write, to share, to comfort, to uplift.  On and on we could go, could we not?  But when the sentence is reduced to those two words, the possibilities are limitless.  “Allow yourself.”  Allow yourself THIS moment, in THIS time, in THIS place.  And be one with it.  Whatever it is.  Allow yourself.

The message of these two little words will vary for each of us and for all of us will shift moment by moment.  There is a simplicity in this spiritual practice.  And even to connect to that, we must “allow ourselves” to do so.  I urge each of you to begin the dialogue that will call your soul.  As you “allow yourself” to hear….the whispers of your heart…..